Baljeet aunty . A strong optimistic woman who lived with no fear in her heart and a lot of courage in her spirit. Often we went to her home, to meet our friends, Balwan and Chintu. They have been living in our Apartments in Hyderabad two floors below ours for the past decades almost. Serving us hot parathas served with ghee, speaking to us about our future. She was amongst the few who supported me when I changed my field from IT to Journalism. Against the why’s, do/do nots, she explained to my mother that I should do what I like and identified me as the “generation of those people who had no choice but engineering”.
Anyway, it pains my heart when I learnt that she is not amongst us anymore. It hurt even more to read it in the paper that it was a cruel accident (the link: http://www.hindu.com/2010/09/07/stories/2010090761390500.htm ). Never would one want to see the name of their closed one like this in the paper. My hands trembled to compose a mail to her son who lives in New Zealand to speak of Aunty’s death as he was a student carried no mobile. One of the reasons, I share this ghastly incident is to convey that our society is not divided on caste, sex or religion. It is divided on basis of money, the rich and the poor.
On probing further in to the matter, the person who hit aunty’s cab said that his driver did it and he is absconding. How convenient!
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
“Unfaithful” or “Modern Day Morality” ??
Prostitution takes its roots from the early civilization.
how it all started and why is it all practiced is not the intended topic of discussion here.
HE and SHE are husband and wife. Any pronouns used as ‘HIS’,'HIM’,etc refers to husband and ‘HERS’,’HER’etc refers to wife.
Consider he and she to be third parties. Any references made like ‘his’,him’,etc actually consider the person ‘he’ and the references made like ‘she’,’her’,etc consider the person ‘she’.
All in all ‘she’ can enter ‘HIS’ life and ‘he’ can enter ‘ HER’ life !
'he' and 'she' are regarded as 'stepney' or 'keep' in widely used terms. though these terms are harsh/awkward seem right in their usage.
Case 1:
SHE-HE are recently wedded.
SHE is a Software engineer and HE too is a software engineer by profession, both working in global companies.
SHE finds a companion in him at work,both working in the same Company but in different teams and they both are together most part of the day in their leisure time. Both reside nearby in locations where mostly IT people stay. Both come to the office early and leave early together, that’s thei r office timings as well.
Whereas HE comes home late in the evening. Poor guy,don't know what is HE working so hard for.
SHE and he were lovers before SHE married HIM and HER-his love-life continues after HER marriage to HIM. Don’t know whether HE spends the required time with HER in the bed and out of it. Don’t know whether this is the cause for HER to find HER companion. SHE-HE live together well with affordable luxury. SHE-HE is otherwise a happy couple.
SHE need a big house bought,a luxury car to take HER out,need HIM to take care of HER during times of illness,Mangalsutra to earn respect from society,all HIS hardwork to make HER happy. Does SHE deserve all that from HIM?
Case 2 :
SHE is a housewife and HE is a Software engineer in an MNC. Theirs is a religious family.
HE loves HER very much and doesn’t deny HER anything SHE asks for. They have their own house and leading a decent life.
Don’t know when did a storm hit their roof, SHE has found a companion in him who can show HER heavens in bed !
Otherwise they are happily married.
Case 3 :
SHE runs HER own little shop and HE is a business-man.
HE has to spend a lot of time outside home and that’s HIS business requirement as well.
Unfortunately HE not only spends HIS time outside home for business but also in bed with other women!
Otherwise they are seen as a happily married couple in the neighbourhood.
HE need HER to take care of the house for HIM,HE need HER for cooking HIS meals,HE need HER by HIS bedside to take good care of HIM during times of illness. Does HE deserve all this from HER ?
how are 'prostitution' in its original and well known meaning and 'satisfying hunger for lust outside marriage' different from each other? One significant difference i find is that one is practiced for money and the other to satisy lust, the other difference lies in the way society treats both classes of people.
What do you say about these civilized husbands and wives who want everything from their spouse but seek somebody else for pleasure in bed !!!!!
Is it right to call it as ‘unfaithful’ or can it be accepted as a ‘modern day morality’ ?
how it all started and why is it all practiced is not the intended topic of discussion here.
HE and SHE are husband and wife. Any pronouns used as ‘HIS’,'HIM’,etc refers to husband and ‘HERS’,’HER’etc refers to wife.
Consider he and she to be third parties. Any references made like ‘his’,him’,etc actually consider the person ‘he’ and the references made like ‘she’,’her’,etc consider the person ‘she’.
All in all ‘she’ can enter ‘HIS’ life and ‘he’ can enter ‘ HER’ life !
'he' and 'she' are regarded as 'stepney' or 'keep' in widely used terms. though these terms are harsh/awkward seem right in their usage.
Case 1:
SHE-HE are recently wedded.
SHE is a Software engineer and HE too is a software engineer by profession, both working in global companies.
SHE finds a companion in him at work,both working in the same Company but in different teams and they both are together most part of the day in their leisure time. Both reside nearby in locations where mostly IT people stay. Both come to the office early and leave early together, that’s thei r office timings as well.
Whereas HE comes home late in the evening. Poor guy,don't know what is HE working so hard for.
SHE and he were lovers before SHE married HIM and HER-his love-life continues after HER marriage to HIM. Don’t know whether HE spends the required time with HER in the bed and out of it. Don’t know whether this is the cause for HER to find HER companion. SHE-HE live together well with affordable luxury. SHE-HE is otherwise a happy couple.
SHE need a big house bought,a luxury car to take HER out,need HIM to take care of HER during times of illness,Mangalsutra to earn respect from society,all HIS hardwork to make HER happy. Does SHE deserve all that from HIM?
Case 2 :
SHE is a housewife and HE is a Software engineer in an MNC. Theirs is a religious family.
HE loves HER very much and doesn’t deny HER anything SHE asks for. They have their own house and leading a decent life.
Don’t know when did a storm hit their roof, SHE has found a companion in him who can show HER heavens in bed !
Otherwise they are happily married.
Case 3 :
SHE runs HER own little shop and HE is a business-man.
HE has to spend a lot of time outside home and that’s HIS business requirement as well.
Unfortunately HE not only spends HIS time outside home for business but also in bed with other women!
Otherwise they are seen as a happily married couple in the neighbourhood.
HE need HER to take care of the house for HIM,HE need HER for cooking HIS meals,HE need HER by HIS bedside to take good care of HIM during times of illness. Does HE deserve all this from HER ?
how are 'prostitution' in its original and well known meaning and 'satisfying hunger for lust outside marriage' different from each other? One significant difference i find is that one is practiced for money and the other to satisy lust, the other difference lies in the way society treats both classes of people.
What do you say about these civilized husbands and wives who want everything from their spouse but seek somebody else for pleasure in bed !!!!!
Is it right to call it as ‘unfaithful’ or can it be accepted as a ‘modern day morality’ ?
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